You would plot to write a novel, plan to begin a business and design a layout for your garden. Therefore, it is important to plan and discuss major steps for your married life to increase the opportunity for success. Here are 5 important premarital counseling subjects to discuss with your counselor.
Do You Know Your Future Spouse?
Whirlwind romances and those that take several years may still not take the time to find out all that you need to know about your future partner. You may not need a CIA detailed investigation on your partner, but you should know enough about their history to know what makes them the person they are today.
You may not know everything there is to know about your future partner and this is part of the growing together process. Nevertheless, it is important to understand any of the major issues that may cause roadblocks in the future.
Although there may be 1000 questions that need answering here are the 5 important premarital counseling subjects to discuss;
- Do they want children and how many?
- What do they really want to do with their life?
- Where will they live and what size of property will they purchase or rent?
- How will their family affect and potentially control your future life?
- How will you manage your finances?
You may or may not enjoy the answers. Nevertheless, if you wish to stay with that partner for the rest of your life, you’re going to have to decide and discuss the areas of differences and how you will tackle issues as they arrive in the future.
Religion or country and cultural differences may arrive with different expectations that one or both of you never thought to discuss. When you complete these conversations through premarital counseling, this provides the opportunity for both of you to raise all the salient issues and discuss them so that areas of conflict will be known in advance.
Your therapist will guide you through ways to communicate on these matters that may cause conflict, and you will both learn ways to discuss these before they become difficulties.
